Why does confidence matter? After 20 plus years of working with teenagers in schools, private practice, and detention centers, residential programs and churches, I have realized that Confidence together with Determination and Courage (CDC) are key to our teenager’s success. Why Confidence matters everyone might ask. Confidence matters because without it you won't get the education you deserve. Without that education, you won't be able to go after the career you want; you will not be paid the paycheck you deserve and want, you will not live the life you deserve and want and for now you will not be able to stand up for yourself and refuse to be bullied or disrespected in any way at school, work or home.
Even worse, without confidence in your skills, you won't even attempt to figure out what it is you really want to do, you won’t be able to figure out your passion, or purpose on this earth because you'll assume you'd never get the chance to do it anyway. Without confidence, it is difficult to stand up to a partner who is abusive, cheating or disrespecting you. It is difficult to manage and control your anger, emotions at any given time.
Without confidence in yourself, your abilities and your unique contributions, you won't be one to initiate conversations at times, to start your own business, to peacefully and tactfully confront spiteful or create the art being the best you. Without confidence, you're doomed to be your own worst critic, throwing yourself under the bus, allowing others to walk all over you, giving up on yourself, being a follower and making choices you know deep down are wrong choices, and not trusting those who have your best interest at heart.
Without confidence, you'll miss out on the love, friendship and fun you might have had because you are afraid that people see you as ugly, they would never talk to you, other girls/boys are better looking and smarter than you and ohh you hate your family. You assume at times that everyone is against you and everyone is hateful. Without confidence you find yourself fighting on social media or spending way too much time on social media without doing your school work or working.
This blog is therefore a place for us to share our fears, weaknesses, and build on confidence skills to get you the young adult, teenager, parent, teacher the life you desire and want.
@Drstem Be Encouraged